A long time ago in local theaters across the world (or stars… “Across the Stars”… thank you, John Williams), a film that captivated audiences of all ages was introduced to the masses: “Star Wars.” While the saga is known for its battles and themes of rebellion, unity and the eternal clash between light and dark, another powerful force runs through every trilogy: the force of love. With May 4th approaching, an international “Star Wars” holiday, this is the perfect time to explore the couplings across the trilogies and answer a lingering question: Which “Star Wars” couple reigns supreme in modern romance? The three pairings– Padmé and Anakin, Leia and Han Solo and Rey and Kylo Ren– offer it all. Let us see which one truly ends up with the high ground.
The Prequel Romance: Padmé Amidala and Anakin Skywalker
First, let us delve into the romance between young Senator Padmé Amidala and rising Jedi Knight Anakin Skywalker. What began as a childhood infatuation on Anakin’s part evolved into a secret and forbidden relationship—one they pursued despite political obligations and Jedi restrictions. With Anakin’s dramatic “From the moment I met you…” monologue and Padmé’s unwavering support, even in the face of his growing emotional instability, their love was nothing if not passionate and intense. Anakin’s fear of losing Padmé overwhelmed his thoughts and became a central force in his descent into darkness—not just a sign of deep yearning, but a warning of how love, when tangled with fear and control, can turn destructive.
Though their story has become viral in recent years with TikTok users commenting things like “[Anakin’s] obsession is all I want,” it is fair to say the couple is riddled with toxicity, rooted in possessiveness and control. Devotion and support are important aspects of any relationship, but Anakin relies on Padmé as if she were a lifeline. Despite her support, his trust in her crumbles by the end of Revenge of the Sith. His obsession with preventing her death becomes the very thing that leads to her loss.
The Original Romance: Princess Leia Organa and Han Solo
Now, let us turn our attention to the determined Princess Leia and the sarcastic smuggler Han Solo. The original duo, though less intense in terms of romance than Padmé and Anakin’s bond, is more grounded in reality. Their love story unfolds at a slower pace, with their connection truly beginning to flourish after their initial, contentious meeting. Unlike the grand romantic declarations between Anakin and Padmé, the sarcastic, quick-witted banter between Leia and Han creates a different kind of tension—one built on humor, teasing and gradual understanding.
Their relationship is not without flaws. The two often clash due to their strong personalities. Han is drawn to independence and personal gain, while Leia is driven by duty and devotion to the rebellion. These conflicting values—protecting the self versus protecting others—create friction. Still, their willingness to challenge each other helps them grow. Over time, they manage to reconcile their differences and remain a team, proving their force of love can withstand conflict and change.
The Sequel Romance: Rey Palpatine and Ben “Kylo Ren” Solo
The complete opposite of Anakin and Padmé’s relationship–a love that fell into darkness– force-wielding scavenger Rey and dark side warrior Kylo Ren’s relationship begins with one already deep within it. Rey senses the goodness still within Ben Solo, even as he is consumed by the dark side. In turn, Ben is drawn to Rey’s strength and clarity, and the two form a rare Force bond that allows them to see each other in ways no one else can. Their connection is undeniable, forged through their rare Force bond and strengthened by shared moments of vulnerability and understanding.
However, their bond is built on versions of each other that do not exist in full. Rey clings to the vision of a redeemed Ben Solo, a Jedi who returns to the light. Ben imagines Rey as a partner who will join him in creating a New Order. Their relationship is built more on hope and fantasy than on trust and acceptance. Though the emotional connection is strong, it is not grounded in reality. What they want from each other exists more in potential than in truth– a romance that feels powerful on screen but would falter in the real world.
Who Has the High Ground?
Each Star Wars couple has its strengths and weaknesses, reflecting a unique perspective on what love can be. But through it all, the couple that claims the high ground is from the original trilogy– Leia Organa and Han Solo. Despite their friction and flaws, they remain the most admirable pairing because of the growth they inspire in one another and the balance they ultimately achieve. So as we celebrate the galaxy far, far away this May 4th, let us raise a toast to the couple that proves real love takes work, patience and a little bit of wit– and May the Fourth be with you.