Sass Attack!
Suzette De La Cre
Issue date: 11/7/08 Section: Arts & Entertainment
This is a very special edition from yours truly. The fabulous Suzette is dealing with serious issues that have at some point touched me in one way or another. Despite my own baggage (Vuitton), I've always tried to be there for those I love. Unfortunately, we all come into hardships and I've been there for my dearests. However, not all of my readers have the privilege of knowing Ms. De La Cré, so here are a few examples along with my love.
I am a closet gay guy. I don't know how to tell people about who I am. I'm afraid that I'll be rejected and left alone. What should I do?
First and foremost, you are not alone-there are plenty of closet cases around and in some way, aren't we all closeted? And anyone who rejects you just because you are gay does not love you. Oh, and small detail, being gay isn't who you are: you are who you are. Being gay just means you yearn to experience deeper relations with men. Regardless, it seems obvious to me that you want to abandon that closet and perhaps fill it with some nice Dior? Here are some sure fire steps to get yourself started.
1. Decide that you are gay. Coming out to yourself can sometimes be the hardest step. About 1 percent of the population self actualizes, and in a way admitting an "alternative" sexual orientation is a way of self actualization that not everyone can in fact do. So pat yourself on the back - step one accomplished!
2. Determine you are ready. Granted all the girls are coming out to mommy and daddy with tear-filled emotional moments that only seem to happen on day time television, but that doesn't mean it's your time. You have to be ready, so take your time.
3. Bringing up an interesting point, lose expectations. I'm serious. Don't expect your family and friends to be overly emotional in either positive or negative ways. I know this isn't easy; however, it will make the whole process simpler if you focus on the process, not the results.
4. Start at the softest spot. Come out to someone very close to you, whom you trust not to open their fat trap to all the guys on your rugby team. Kidding, just an example. My questioner isn't on the rugby team, or, well, I don't honestly know. This is completely anonymous. In some way, coming to me was a start - you have told someone and I haven't rejected you. In fact, I'm embracing and advising you on this not-so-easy road.
I am a closet gay guy. I don't know how to tell people about who I am. I'm afraid that I'll be rejected and left alone. What should I do?
First and foremost, you are not alone-there are plenty of closet cases around and in some way, aren't we all closeted? And anyone who rejects you just because you are gay does not love you. Oh, and small detail, being gay isn't who you are: you are who you are. Being gay just means you yearn to experience deeper relations with men. Regardless, it seems obvious to me that you want to abandon that closet and perhaps fill it with some nice Dior? Here are some sure fire steps to get yourself started.
1. Decide that you are gay. Coming out to yourself can sometimes be the hardest step. About 1 percent of the population self actualizes, and in a way admitting an "alternative" sexual orientation is a way of self actualization that not everyone can in fact do. So pat yourself on the back - step one accomplished!
2. Determine you are ready. Granted all the girls are coming out to mommy and daddy with tear-filled emotional moments that only seem to happen on day time television, but that doesn't mean it's your time. You have to be ready, so take your time.
3. Bringing up an interesting point, lose expectations. I'm serious. Don't expect your family and friends to be overly emotional in either positive or negative ways. I know this isn't easy; however, it will make the whole process simpler if you focus on the process, not the results.
4. Start at the softest spot. Come out to someone very close to you, whom you trust not to open their fat trap to all the guys on your rugby team. Kidding, just an example. My questioner isn't on the rugby team, or, well, I don't honestly know. This is completely anonymous. In some way, coming to me was a start - you have told someone and I haven't rejected you. In fact, I'm embracing and advising you on this not-so-easy road.
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