Same-sex marriage tarnishes the "real" identity of marriage

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Posted: 6/27/08

Dear Editor,

Marriage is not just a religious symbol or social status or even a spiritual status. It is an identity. It is an identity that has been present ever since time began. It is the only identity that is acknowledged by any religion, race, society or nation. Our ancestors, who were relatively smarter than us, never fooled with that identity.
To ask folks like me to share this identity with gays and lesbians is highly hypocritical of the gay and lesbian community. Now, before I proceed further, let me make one thing clear. I am pro-gay, and I do support with wholeheartedly that equal rights must be granted to the gay/lesbian community. But there is a difference between sharing equal rights and sharing my own identity.
We shall not consider allowing gay marriages to share the same identity of that of regular marriages. It is not tolerance but just incompetence from our part not to act or even stand up for our identity. By all means, allow gay/lesbian community to have a share of legal rights by allowing what is known as a "civil union." By getting "unionized" instead of "married," gay/lesbian couples shall have access to legal adoption, life insurance and other matters that are privileges for married couples. Thereby a "unionized couple" can have all they have asked for. But to grant the time-honored identity of marriage to the gay/lesbian community is just foolish, and it is hypocritical of gay/lesbian community to even ask for it.
We just can't afford to mislead the rest of world by our own incompetence. We should put a stop to this gay marriage concept once and for all.

Lux Gurusamy
Senior
Civil Engineering